“Is Adoption an Option?
Three years after our first son was born, my husband and I started to think about expanding our family. As each of the next few years passed, there always seemed to be a reason to wait. After all, I was working a ton of hours, then my husband’s company went under, then I started a new job, my husband started a new job. Timing was never right……but then again when is it. Well, once we took the leap to move forward….we hit a roadblock, multiple miscarriages. Each miscarriage was attributed to some sort of genetic issue that could not be identified by the doctors. After miscarriage #4, my husband and I agreed that we did want another child and that adoption was a great option.
Questions were overwhelming: What agency? International? Domestic? Newborn? Match through an agency, lawyer or facilitator? Would we love an adopted child the same way we love our biological son? How would our family react? How would our older son take it? Would the 6 year age difference between the children be too much? What if we don’t get chosen? Would I be able to deal with an adoption, when I would have so little control over the situation? These questions were just the tip of the iceberg.”