In the latest New York Times Magazine (8/14/11), the difficult issue of pregnancy reduction was introduced and debated. The agonizing decision for prospective parents about how many children they can manage, and the conflicting feelings of health care providers in helping them achieve their objective when it implies a fetal reduction, was sometimes painful to read.
While describing the difficulty of managing multiples, the author who had a singleton and then multiples wrote; “I was right to be afraid. Studies report enormous disruption in families with multiples, and higher levels of social isolation, exhaustion and depression in mothers of twins. The incessant demands of caring for two same-aged babies eclipse the needs of other children and the marriage.” She reports being glad she didn’t choose to reduce from two fetuses to one, saying “because they are no longer shadowy fetuses but full-fledged human beings whom I love in a huge and aching way.”
As the mother of twins and a singleton, and the leader of the Mothers of Multiples group for more than seven years, I had a very strong reaction to this article. Read more