December 23, 2014 / 1st of Tevet, 5775
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Mimi Arbeit

  • Talya Sokoll, 29, is a middle- and high-school librarian who lives in Roslindale. She is active in Moishe Kavod and Keshet and is passionate about sex ed. Her research includes representations of trans teens in young adult literature and ways that libraries and schools can promote safety for all students.

    I devoured books growing up. I read all kinds of stories, but the stories I loved most gave me a glimpse into the “real life” of a teenager. I wanted to rea...

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  • OK, so maybe the title of this post is a little tongue-in-cheek. I actually have complicated feelings about gifts. They key to my heart is carved with attention, emotions and serious conversation. Show me you care about me by showing me you care about me—about my life and my experiences.

    That said, maybe you want to get a gift for your spouse, sweetie or special someone. Something they’ll enjoy, admire or find interesting or meaningful. Maybe that’s som...

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  • Hannah Catzen, 25, is a Somerville resident and Baltimore native. She’s a member of Moishe Kavod House and an alumna of Urban Adamah. In addition to reading and writing love letters (and all other sorts of written media), Hannah enjoys playing music, observing pollinators and riding her bike everywhere. Someday she will write a blog or use a Twitter account so you can keep up with her adventures.

    We hear all the time: tell people that you love them. I’d like ...

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  • She began to touch it gently, like something really beautiful. “You know, you could make a woman feel real good with this thing. Maybe better than she ever felt in her life.” She stopped stroking the dildo. “Or you could really hurt her, and remind her of all the ways she’s ever been hurt in her life. You got to think about that every time you strap this on. Then you’ll be a good lover.”
    —From “Stone Butch Blues” by Leslie Feinberg

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  • Perhaps it shouldn’t surprise me that the current approach to healing from the physical trauma of a concussion echoes my process of healing from other, emotional traumas. But of course I only speak for myself. Here’s a little bit of what it’s looked like and felt like for me these past few months, and these past many years:

    Step 1: Hitting the limit

    After going through some pretty hard relationship stuff during the first two years of college, I found...

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  • Samantha Manewitz, LICSW, is a 32-year-old educator, sex nerd and therapist, currently in Somerville. In her capacity as a helping professional, she has seen a broad spectrum of clients: domestic violence victims, self-injuring teens, traumatized children, sexual assault survivors and clients of just about every sexuality and gender orientation. Outside of her therapy office, Samantha’s journey is one of perpetual learning, and being the nerd she is, she’s compelled to share the knowl...

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  • Adina Koch, 27, lives in Jamaica Plain and is the manager of community health programs at Martha Eliot Health Center (including Project Protection, their HIV/STD testing and counseling program and young adult resource center). She’s also an active member of Connect to Protect, working on efforts to reduce stigma surrounding sexual health and access to care for young LGBTQ people of color. You can also find her sitting by Jamaica Pond or at Shabbat dinner with a rowdy group of queer Jews.

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  • I had to drop eye contact before asking the question. Then I just had to name the uncomfortable degree of shyness I was experiencing. “I can’t believe I’m asking this, but it just seems to me like an orgasm is a direct shot of electricity to the brain, and probably a really bad idea?”

    He responded calmly: “A lot of people have questions about sex at this point in recovering from a concussion.”

    Phew. It’s not weird to ask questions abo...

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  • You’re hot. Your friend is hot. Maybe it’s the way your bodies move together on the dance floor. Maybe it’s the way your friend is laughing tonight. Maybe it’s something you’ve been thinking about for a while now, or maybe you have a surprising sense that your friend is about to make a move and you’re not sure how to respond. As you consider your options, here are some questions you might ask yourself before you go home with a friend&hellip...

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  • Sammy Sass, 25, was born and bred in Cambridge and currently lives in Boston, sometimes. She’s got her hands on the earth whenever possible, in the garden or on the potter’s wheel. Her ceramics can be seen here, and around town at SOWA open studios and local craft fairs. She spent four months living in Italy this summer.

    On our first date, we sat in his little green car and made our way down the mountain to th...

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Mimi is a Ph.D. candidate in child study and human development at Tufts University, focusing on adolescent sexuality and sexual health. She is a freelance sexuality educator and also works locally to promote and strengthen sexuality education in public schools. Before starting The Debrief, she wrote her own blog, sexedtransforms.blogspot.com. She loves dancing, taking walks around the city, and listening to people share their stories. Email mimia@jewishboston.com or tweet @mimiarbeit.

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To add to this list: XL Designs by Xiomara Lorenzo! Gorgeous 3D printed jewelry! https://www.etsy.com/shop/xldesigns (made locally but can be shipped!)
The Debrief: How to Win Hearts this Hanukkah
Thank you for putting the work into this list, Mimi! I'll make sure my coworkers and friends have it.
The Debrief: How to Win Hearts this Hanukkah
Such a loving tribute to Leslie. This captures my experience and my belief about the transformative power of intimacy and the attendant dangers. Pleasure and Danger? Thank you Mimi, so wonderful to see how you've evolved the work on consent, heath education and justice.
The Debrief: Better Than You Ever Felt in Your Life
yasher kochech Mimi! Absolutely beautiful!!
The Debrief: Better Than You Ever Felt in Your Life
MImi this is so, so beautiful. I just shared it on FB.
The Debrief: Better Than You Ever Felt in Your Life
That's a lovely piece. I really like the tango analogy.
The Debrief: Practicing Tango, Practicing Surrender