February 1, 2015 / 12th of Shvat, 5775
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Mimi Arbeit

  • Phil Eiseman is a third-year clinical psychology doctoral student at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, studying under Dr. Zoë Peterson. His research interests include the ways in which people express their gender identities, how beliefs about gender influence cross-gender relationships, and boundary setting in monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. His non-research interests include running, puzzles, games and learning new things from people with all kinds of different backgrounds....

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  • In 2010, I started crying every time I heard Taylor Swift’s song “Mine.” They were tears of relief, tears of deep need that would well up at this climactic scene:

    And I remember that fight, two-thirty a.m.
    You said everything was slipping right out of our hands
    I ran out, crying, and you followed me out into the street
    Braced myself for the goodbye, ‘cause that’s all I’ve ever known
    Then, you took me by surprise
    You said, “I’ll never leave y...

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  • Missy Mae Sturtevant, MSW, is the director and owner of MaeBright Group, LLC. MaeBright works with state agencies, non-profits and companies looking for support in creating welcoming environments for LGBTQ people through policies, trainings and technical assistance. Contact missy@maebright.com to inquire about how MaeBright can help your agency or organization. Missy is 30 years old and lives in Somerville, where she spends a lot of time dancing in her kitchen instead of cooking in it and spoilin...

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    Ivy Hest is 29 years old and just moved to Berkeley from Boston, where she worked as a community organizer, was involved in the Workmen’s Circle, and founded/directed an a cappella group, the Mass Whole Notes. When she’s not writing about her breasts, she writes about organizing on her blog, Deep Roots, Long Branches.

    No, these aren’t real. But I still think they’re fabulous.

    “I feel sad for people who hate themselves so much that they ...

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  • Caitlin on her honeymoon in Croatia

    Caitlin, 29, just moved from East Boston to Dallas, Texas. A public health professional with a background in health policy and communication, she writes about creative productivity, healthy living and purposeful growth at CaitlinWHowe.com. Follow her on Facebook and Twitter.

    There I was, swallowing my panicky phobia of heights. “C’mon! You can do it! I’m right behind you. Check out this view!” Josh (my sp...

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  • Last week’s #ChanukahAction protest in Boston, photographed by Jordyn Rozensky

    Ten years ago.

    December 2004.

    I got out of…I broke up with…I ended an…

    Deep breath in. Maybe I can’t tell that story in full force just yet. Maybe instead I need to pick up at what it still means for me now.


    Ten days ago. Dec. 15, 2014. It’s Monday morning and I’m riding the T to a meeting about preventing HIV transmission am...

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  • Talya Sokoll, 29, is a middle- and high-school librarian who lives in Roslindale. She is active in Moishe Kavod and Keshet and is passionate about sex ed. Her research includes representations of trans teens in young adult literature and ways that libraries and schools can promote safety for all students.

    I devoured books growing up. I read all kinds of stories, but the stories I loved most gave me a glimpse into the “real life” of a teenager. I wanted to rea...

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  • OK, so maybe the title of this post is a little tongue-in-cheek. I actually have complicated feelings about gifts. They key to my heart is carved with attention, emotions and serious conversation. Show me you care about me by showing me you care about me—about my life and my experiences.

    That said, maybe you want to get a gift for your spouse, sweetie or special someone. Something they’ll enjoy, admire or find interesting or meaningful. Maybe that’s som...

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  • Hannah Catzen, 25, is a Somerville resident and Baltimore native. She’s a member of Moishe Kavod House and an alumna of Urban Adamah. In addition to reading and writing love letters (and all other sorts of written media), Hannah enjoys playing music, observing pollinators and riding her bike everywhere. Someday she will write a blog or use a Twitter account so you can keep up with her adventures.

    We hear all the time: tell people that you love them. I’d like ...

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  • She began to touch it gently, like something really beautiful. “You know, you could make a woman feel real good with this thing. Maybe better than she ever felt in her life.” She stopped stroking the dildo. “Or you could really hurt her, and remind her of all the ways she’s ever been hurt in her life. You got to think about that every time you strap this on. Then you’ll be a good lover.”
    —From “Stone Butch Blues” by Leslie Feinberg


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Mimi is a Ph.D. candidate in child study and human development at Tufts University, focusing on adolescent sexuality and sexual health. She is a freelance sexuality educator and also works locally to promote and strengthen sexuality education in public schools. Before starting The Debrief, she wrote her own blog, sexedtransforms.blogspot.com. She loves dancing, taking walks around the city, and listening to people share their stories. Email mimia@jewishboston.com or tweet @mimiarbeit.

Latest Comments

What a great read! Missy, you are such an inspiration and quite the role model for ALL!
The Debrief: Sexuality Out of the Box
luv it! Great post Missy Sturtevant!
The Debrief: Sexuality Out of the Box
What a great read! Missy, you are such an inspiration and quite the role model!
The Debrief: Sexuality Out of the Box
Awesome article, Missy. Thank you for writing it and for the work you do.
The Debrief: Sexuality Out of the Box
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The Debrief: How to Win Hearts this Hanukkah
To add to this list: XL Designs by Xiomara Lorenzo! Gorgeous 3D printed jewelry! https://www.etsy.com/shop/xldesigns (made locally but can be shipped!)
The Debrief: How to Win Hearts this Hanukkah
Thank you for putting the work into this list, Mimi! I'll make sure my coworkers and friends have it.
The Debrief: How to Win Hearts this Hanukkah
Such a loving tribute to Leslie. This captures my experience and my belief about the transformative power of intimacy and the attendant dangers. Pleasure and Danger? Thank you Mimi, so wonderful to see how you've evolved the work on consent, heath education and justice.
The Debrief: Better Than You Ever Felt in Your Life
yasher kochech Mimi! Absolutely beautiful!!
The Debrief: Better Than You Ever Felt in Your Life
MImi this is so, so beautiful. I just shared it on FB.
The Debrief: Better Than You Ever Felt in Your Life